From Life’s Little Instruction Book

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Jackson Brown originally wrote Life’s Little Instruction book as a gift for his son who was leaving home to begin his freshman year in college. Brown says, “I read years ago that it was not the responsibility of parents to pave the road for their children but to provide a road map, and I wanted to provide him with what I had learned about living a happy and rewarding life.” Life’s Little Instruction Book is a guidebook that gently points the way to happiness and fulfillment. The observations are direct, simple, and as practical as an umbrella.

“Most of us already know how to live a successful and purposeful life,” says Brown. “We know we should be more understanding and thoughtful, more responsible, courageous and appreciative. It’s just that we sometimes need reminding.”

Here are excerpts from the book.

1. Love deeply and passionately.  You might get hurt, but it’s the only way to live life completely.

2. When you get really angry, stick your hands in your pockets.

3. Accept the fact that regardless of how many times you’re right, you will sometimes be wrong.

4. Remember the 3 Rs: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.

5. Write a short note inside the front cover when giving a book as a gift.

6. Don’t think expensive equipment will make up for a lack of talent or practice.

7. Life will sometimes hand you a magical moment.  Savor it.

8. Marry a woman you love to talk to.  As you get older, her conversational skills will be as important as any other.

9. Live a good, honorable life.  Then when you get older and think back, you’ll get to enjoy it a second time.

10. Never say anything uncomplimentary about your wife or children in the presence of others.

11. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation.  Don’t bring up the past.

12. Share your knowledge.  It’s a way to achieve immortality.

13. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

14. Apologize immediately when you lose your temper, especially to children.

15. Don’t confuse comfort with happiness.

16. Check for toilet paper before sitting down.

17.When you are totally exhausted but have to keep going, wash your face and hands and put on clean socks and a clean shirt.  You will feel remarkably refreshed.

18. Remember that nothing important ever happens until someone takes a chance.

19. Hire people more for their judgment than for their talents.

20. Don’t outlive your money.

21 comments on “From Life’s Little Instruction Book

  1. kaye says:

    I love everything here!

    #5, I love it when I receive a book that has a note in it. I actually LOVE receiving written notes, more than emailed ones kasi iba ang effort pag sulat kamay. My husband gives me cards and little notes from time to time and that’s one of the things I love about him. I actually do the same from time to time din. mas gusto ko yun ginagawa pag walang occasion.🙂

    #14 I appreciate this and try to practice this with my children. sa mga pinoy kasi bihirang bihira na nagaapologize ang mga magulang, kasi sa atin, pag magulang, ke mali o tama, magulang ka, walang sorry sorry. but with the kids, we apologize when we’re wrong because we want them to learn that it’s not wrong to commit mistakes as long as one also knows how to admit them and make up for them.

    #20, tama po yan. it’s better to have used and shared your money than to find out you still have plenty of it but can no longer use it. ang sad naman nun.

    thanks for sharing, tay!

    • Salamat Kaye sa pagbisita.

      Panahon namin ang love letters ay through the post office na sinusulat sa magagandang stationary. And katulad ninyo rin iba talaga ang dating ng cards na handwritten…ang mga bata ganyan…minsan home made pa nga ang card. Naka-tago nga halos ang mga cards na ginawa nila simula nung bata pa sila.

      (14) We practice this also…para sila rin kapag parents na ay ganun din sila.

      (20)oo totoo ito…di ba sabi nga…

      Proverbs 22:9
      He who is generous will be blessed, for he gives some of his food to the poor.

      Love ko rin lahat.

      Welcome & God Bless!

  2. darbs says:

    Superlo! super tung book review mo. I agree. sa sinabing…

    It’s just that we sometimes need reminding.”

    Kailangan talaga yan.

    Apologize immediately when you lose your temper, especially to children.

    Yan, dahil minsan ako na mismo ang pagsabihan sa bata. Sabi pa, “that is not cool dad!”

    Minsan, sabi pa sa akin that is not cool, dude!”

    Ako naman tatawa na lang. By the way, balewala pala sa aking kung tawagin akong dude sa anak ko basta gagawin lang nya ang nakalistang task/house chores/homework/practice/ – – who cares. what is in the name. pero ang paalala ko lang is sa Filipino tradition/culture/ we emphasize respect – na minsan ung tuno sa mga sulat ko nag-rerebelde na rin. kaya sensya na lang po kung may mabasa man kayong hindi maganda sa blog ko minsan.

    * * *

    Salamat pala lolo sa share nyu doon sa exodians blog.

    hindi pa ako nakapag- respond dahil there are times na walang pumapasok sa tok-tok de utak.

    Bilib ako sa iyo dito parang spontaneous ung sagot nyu at makabuluhan pa. sabi ko nga, yan si Cool SuperGrandpa!

    kaway-kaway na naman.

    • Haha…kaway-kaway muna at salamat Darbs sa sinabi mo na…

      —-Bilib ako sa iyo dito parang spontaneous ung sagot nyu at makabuluhan pa….Cool SuperGrandpa!

      Sa idad kong ito I try my best…in my own little way…na kahit papaano ay may mapupulot naman ang babasa sa aking sinusulat. Ito siguro yung para sa akin…time is really gold…half way na ako sa buhay ko at nais ko kahit dito sa blogosperyo ay may mai-share ako na mga natututunan at nae-experience ko sa buhay ko.

      At dun naman sa pagsusulat mo…ayyy walang problema sa akin kasi ang ganda naman ng pag-express mo ng iyong saloobin. Maraming akong natututunan sa iyong blog.
      At sa totoo lang…ako at may age ay nais pang maraming matutunan. Bukas pa ang aking isipan sa mga bagay-bagay na aking nababasa. Isa ako sa mga sumasaludo sa iyong blog.

      —-Minsan, sabi pa sa akin that is not cool, dude!”

      Ako man, ok yun kahit anong tawag sa akin basta nararamdaman ko na may respeto ang dating…haha yung kasing ipinagagawa naman natin sa kanila ay isang proseso ng pagtuturo natin…at epektibo ito na they will cherish later in their lives.

      And kaway-kaway ulit. Ingat lagi diyan.

      Salamat ulit.

  3. ferdz says:

    “Don’t confuse comfort with happiness.”

    Akala natin masaya na tayo sa kung anong meron tayo sa ngayon. Akala natin ito na ang ligaya, balat -kayo pala.
    mahirap matutunan ang leksyon na ito ng buhay, sana maliwanagan ako.

    • Salamat sa pagbisita Ferdie.

      —-“Don’t confuse comfort with happiness.”

      Ay tamang-tama yung sinabi mo:

      —-“Akala natin ito na ang ligaya, balat -kayo pala.
      mahirap matutunan ang leksyon na ito ng buhay,…”

      Mukhang naipaliwanag na ni kaibigang Darbs dun sa ibaba ang sagot at nagbigay ako ng aking kasagutan. Malawak itong topic na ito at sa ibat-ibang tao ay talagang ibat-iba ang magiging kasagutan dito.

      Naalala ko tuloy itong sinulat ni Bro. Bo Sanchez:

      · Judy Garland (47)

      · Jimi Hendrix (27)

      · Janis Joplin (27)

      · Marilyn Monroe (36)

      · Elvis Presley (42)

      · River Phoenix (23)

      · John Belushi (33)

      · Heath Ledger (28)

      · Michael Jackson (50)

      Two things are common among them.

      First is that they’re all dead.

      Second is that they all died of a drug overdose.

      Most of them were taking either illegal or prescription drugs for years.

      Most of them had the world in the palm of their hands. They had everything—money, pleasure, fame, cars, homes, and excitement. They had fans that would worship the dirt on their shoes.

      Bakit??

      And naito ang kasagutan ni Bro. Bo Sanchez:

      http://bosanchez.ph/are-you-malnourished-for-love/

      Maraming kapaliwanagan & kasagutan…. sana matanggap natin ang tunay na kaligayahan.

      God Bless!

  4. darbs says:

    “Don’t confuse comfort with happiness.”

    You got it right.

    You will know the difference dahil kahit andiyan na ang comfort in life, (affordable clothing, shelter, health insurance, affordable education and job satisfaction, kasama na ang affordable bakasyon kahit saan lupalop ng mundo ), subalit “unhappy” pa rin, dahil kulang talaga. may kulang…

    ano ang kulang?
    what makes you unhappy and unsatistfied?
    what makes you depressed?

    May mga sagot ang mundo…

    Some find happiness in Religion…
    Some find happiness wihtout religion…
    Some find happiness living a simple life…
    Some find happiness na hindi naiinggit sa iba.

    Ah! the Pursuit of Happiness… I don’t really know what it is…you have to find your own happiness. I know what makes me happy.

    Comfort in life is just a stepping stone dahil you don’t have to worry sa basic needs what else to complain about? pagkain nandyan…
    damit andyan…
    matutulugan, andyan
    kung magkasakit may ospital at gamot…
    kung kailangan ng pera andyan na rin…

    If you are not happy despite all those basic needs… then, I don’t really know what happiness is…

    • Haha…Salamat ulit Darbs…kasasagot ko pa lang dun sa nauna mong komento at salamat dito sa komento mo na ito

      —-“Don’t confuse comfort with happiness.”

      at ito na rin ang sagot ko kay kaibigang Ferdie sa itaas.

      —-Ah! the Pursuit of Happiness…

      At sa totoo lang ito ang isang bagong libangan ko dito sa US ang magbasa ng mga books from the library about…Aging Well…Utmost Living…Life Matters…The second half of Life….at marami pa about Life, Happiness & Healthy living.

      At naito nga ngayon ang aking binabasa ay itong book ni Elaine St. James na ang title ay ‘Simplify Your Life’—100 ways to slow down and enjoy the things that really matter.
      —at mukhang pina-plano ko nang i-aplay sa buhay ko ang sinasabi sa book na ito…at mukhang yung iba sa mga suggestions dito ay pina-practice ko na sa aking buhay….ummm maganda itong itinuturo sa book na ito.

      Mukhang to make my life simplier ay ang magpapaligaya sa akin.

      Ito nag-qoute lang ako dun sa tapos ng magbasa(from the Internet)

      These days, many of us find ourselves overwhelmed by our possessions, finances, commitments, obligations — the sheer amount of “stuff” in our lives. It takes up space, drains away time, and distracts us from the things that really matter: relationships, health, happiness, spirituality, and inner growth.

      Simplify Your Life is a refreshing, much-needed antidote to the disorder and frenzy of daily life. In this funny, insightful, and practical program, you’ll discover how to bring more happiness into your life by taking things you don’t want out of it —step by simple step. It contains dozens of suggestions and tips that will help you begin the process of creating a more balanced, peaceful life that is free of chaos and clutter.

      —–If you are not happy despite all those basic needs… then, I don’t really know what happiness is…

      Ay totoo ito Darbs…wala na rin akong masabi.

      At kung kulang pa itong paliwanag na ito…..i always suggest to my friends to read the life of Nick Vujicic

      http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org/

      At marami pa siyang bidyo sa youtube. Sa ministry niya…nakapag minister na siya sa 10% na mga tao sa buong mundo.

      Gandang topic ito. Salamat Darbs.

  5. boypulubi says:

    Napakaganda naman ng nilalaman ng librong ito.
    Maraming matututunan tungkol sa pananaw mo sa buhay, pagmamahal, pag”control” ng iyong galit at ng buhay buhay sa kabuuan.

    Sana ay ayos lang kayo.
    Ingat.

    • Salamat BP sa pagbisita…ay okay lang naman dito. Ngayon medyo umulan…first yata ito since nung January.

      Oo…medyo alam na naman natin ang marami diyan medyo sabi nga nung sumulat ng libro…maganda itong reminders.

      Ingat din & God Bless!

  6. tagamasid says:

    Thanks for the link and for the comments.

  7. Nortehanon says:

    “Most of us already know how to live a successful and purposeful life,” says Brown. “We know we should be more understanding and thoughtful, more responsible, courageous and appreciative. It’s just that we sometimes need reminding.”>>>>This is so true. Actually, this is one of the reasons why I am blogging. Isa ito sa mission statement ko sa blog ko.

    How thoughtful it is for a father to come up with everything that’s in the book to guide his son. Pagdating ng araw na wala na siya, andyan pa rin ang aklat na gagabay sa anak niya. Thank you for sharing, Lolo Jem😉

    • Oo totoo and so simple ang mga guides na ito para sa pangkaraniwang buhay natin.

      And surely the book and the good guides will be passed on for the next generations that will come.

      Your welcome Ms N & salamat din sa pagbisita. Na-miss kita kasi I always visit your blog…pero mukhang kahapon andun ka na ulit..bibisita ako.

  8. 8. Marry a woman you love to talk to. As you get older, her conversational skills will be as important as any other.

    ito ang gusto ko! masabi nga sa utol ko yan!

    • Tamang-tama po ito Father…kasi tingin ko ito ang isa sa kapag wala o nawala…at kapag nakakita ng magaling na kausap sa labas ang lalaki…puwedeng maghahanap pa siya sa iba…na hindi naman dapat…eh dito pa naman magaling ang mga beerhouse business sa atin…hehe

      Siguro yung woman din should take care of this aspect….kahit anong busy pa siya sa buhay at kahit anong beauty pa siya.

      Tanda ko ito sa buhay ko….kaya nga may word na tele-babad. Ito yata ang mga talagang pahabaan ng kuwentuhan…everything under the sun and moon and the stars…ibig sabihin enjoy ang dalawang tao sa ginagawa nila…kahit di sila nagkikita o magkasama.

      • ..pero the sight of two old people na magkasama enjoying only the silence..walang word…can also be a very beautiful sight to behold…

      • “..pero the sight of two old people na magkasama enjoying only the silence..walang word…can also be a very beautiful sight to behold…”

        Sakto po Father ang inyong sinabi…ito po yata ang sinasabing…ang mga puso ang nag-uusap…yung ngiti…yung mga mata…body movements/expressions…facial expressions…

        Bigla ko tuloy naalala Father yung parents nung aking kaibigan…pareho silang pipi…and yun nga lagi silang magkasama at nag-uusap thru sa sign language…they have so much love…mas expressive pa nga yata sila sa mga normal na nakakapag-usap.

        Ingat po kayo lagi diyan Father.

  9. Sows says:

    wla akong masabe…ang galeng ….wla nako maidadagdag pa…

    pano po, hi nlng?
    😆

    • Salamat po Miss Sows and Hi & Hello din. Teka ano ba ang mas gusto mong itawag ko Deejay o Sows…kasi tingin ko enjoy na enjoy ka sa pagiging Deejay mo sa bahay mo?

      Ang daming bagets kang tagahanga dun…medyo hamo hahabol ang Lolo sa mga bagets mong tagahanga.

      Ingat lagi diyan sa atin.

  10. […] Naalala ko tuloy yung komento ni kaibigang Darbs sa “Don’t confuse comfort with happiness.” […]

  11. joyce says:

    “Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt, but it’s the only way to live life completely”.

    Korek! I have always loved someone deeply & passionately… pero i always get hurt..
    Pero kahit po ganon pa man ang nangyayari, in a way, parang i just felt completeness sa maikling panahon…

    na-miss ko tuloy ang aking kaibigan…

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