Live this day

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I will live this day as if it is my last by Og Mandino.

And what shall I do with this last precious day which remains in my keeping? First, I seal up its container of life so that not one drop spills itself upon the sand. I will waste not a moment mourning yesterday’s misfortunes, yesterday’s defeats, yesterday’s aches of the heart, for why should I throw good after bad?

Can sand flow upward in the hour glass? Will the sun rise where it sets and sets where it rises? Can I relive the errors of yesterday and right them? Can I call back yesterday’s wounds and make them whole? Can I become younger than yesterday? Can I take back the evil that was spoken, the blows that were struck, the pain that was caused? No. Yesterday is buried forever and I will think of it no more.

I will live this day as if it is my last.

And what then shall I do? Forgetting yesterday neither will I think of tomorrow. Why should I throw now after maybe? Can tomorrow’s sand flow through the glass before today’s? Will the sun rise twice this morning? Can I perform tomorrow’s deeds while standing in today’s path? Can I place tomorrow’s gold in today’s purse? Can tomorrow’s child be born today? Can tomorrow’s death cast its torment backward and darken today’s joy? Should I concern myself over events which I may never witness? Should I torment myself with problems that may never come to pass? No! tomorrow lies buried with yesterday, and I will think of it no more.

I will live this day as if it is my last.

This is all I have and these hours are now my eternity. I greet this sunrise with cries of joy as a prisoner who is reprieved from death. I lift my arms with thanks for this priceless gift of a new day. So too, I will beat upon my heart with gratitude as I consider all who greeted yesterday’s sunrise who are no longer with the living today. I am indeed a fortunate man and today’s hours are but a bonus, undeserved. Why have I been allowed to live this extra day when others far better than I, have departed? Is it that they have accomplished their purpose while mine is yet to be achieved? Is this another opportunity for me to become the man I know I can be? Is there a purpose in nature? Is this my day to excel?

I will live this day as if it is my last.

I have but one life and life is naught but a measurement of time. When I waste one I destroy the other. If I waste today, I destroy the last page of my life. Therefore, each hour of this day will I cherish for it can never return. It cannot be banked today to be withdrawn on the morrow, for who can trap the wind? Each minute of this day will I grasp with both hands and fondle with love for its value is beyond price. What dying man can purchase another breath though he willingly give all his gold? What price dare I place on the hours ahead? I will make them priceless!

I will live this day as if it is my last.

I will avoid with fury the killers of time. Procrastination I will destroy with action; doubt I will bury under faith; fear I will dismember with confidence. Where there are idle mouths I will listen not; where there are idle hands I will linger not; where there are idle bodies I will visit not. Henceforth I know that to court idleness is to steal food, clothing, and warmth from those I love. I am not a thief. I am a man of love and today is my last chance to prove my love and my greatness.

I will live this day as if it is my last.

The duties of today I shall fulfill today. Today I shall fondle my children while they are young; tomorrow they will be gone, and so will I. Today I shall embrace my woman with sweet kisses; tomorrow she will be gone, and so will I. Today I shall lift up a friend in need: tomorrow he will no longer cry for help, nor will I hear his cries. Today I shall give myself in sacrifice and work; tomorrow I will have nothing to give, and there will be none to receive.

I will live this day as if it is my last.

And if it is my last, it will be my greatest monument. This day I will make the best day of my life. This day I will drink every minute to its full. I will savor its taste and give thanks. I will maketh every hour count and each minute I will trade only with something of value. I will labor harder than ever before and push my muscles until they cry for relief, and then I will continue. I will make more call than ever before. I will sell more goods than ever before. I will earn more gold than ever before. Each minute of today will be more fruitful than hours of yesterday. My last must be my best.

I will live this day as if it is my last.

And if it is not, I shall fall to my knees and give thanks.

—-From the The Greatest Salesman In the World by Og Mandino

Si Lily

Si Lily(di niya tunay na pangalan) ay kaibigan ng aking anak dito sa Amerika. Kararating lang niya noong 2010 mula sa Pilipinas at kasama siya ng anak ko sa trabaho.

Nag-aaral pa sa kolehiyo si Lily ngunit tumigil muna siya ngayon semestre na ito.

Maaliwalas ang mukha ni Lily at palaging nakangiti. Hindi mababanaag kay Lily ang kanyang pinagdaanan, pinagdadaanan,  at mga kakulangan ngayon sa buhay.

Mula sa konti at maiikling tanong ay naintindihan ko ang buhay niyang pinagdaanan. Sa pag-uusap namin ay iniwasan ko ang mga tanong na pakiramdam ko ay wala akong karapatan na ungkatin at malaman. Pinabayaan ko lamang siyang sumagot at magkuwento sa gusto niya.

-Lumaki siya at kanyang mga kapatid sa kanilang Lolo at Lola…sa Pangasinan. Naikuwento niya kung paano nila pinilit na matutunan ang salita doon sa lugar na iyon.

-Noong magha-hayskul na siya ay lumipat sa siya at mga kapatid sa Cavite. At nai-kuwento niya na bago siya umalis sa Pilipinas ay namasukan siya sa Greenwich bilang isang working-student.

Biniro ko si Lily noong nabanggit niya na taga-Cavite rin pala siya…aba matapang ang mga taga-Cavite. Ang sagot niya sa akin ay di rin daw at madalas ay iyakin rin(marahil may kanalaman ito sa kanyang pamilya).

-Nakarating silang magkakapatid sa Amerika dahil sa petition ng kanyang Ama, na may pamilya ng iba dito sa Amerika. Hindi ko na itinanong ang mga detalye at pumasok na lang sa aking isipan na mabuti at inasikaso ng kanyang ama ang kanilang papeles upang makarating siya at mga kapatid sa Amerika sa kabila na may pamilya ng iba ang kanyang Ama.

– Ang Ina naman ni Lily(at mga kapatid niya) ay nasa Dubai. At malamang matagal na rin siya sa ibang lugar bilang OFW dahil sa kuwento niya na nakatira sila sa kanilang Lolo at Lola noong bata pa.

– At sa ngayon ay naalalayan siya at ng kanyang mga kapatid ng kanilang Tiya dito sa Amerika.

Mga nabanggit rin ni Lily…

“Hindi niya akalain na makakarating sa Amerika siya at kanyang mga kapatid.”

“Naaawa siya sa kanyang Ina dahil magkakahiwalay sila at ganun na lamang ang pag-iisip at pag-aalala sa kanilang mga magkakapatid dito sa Amerika.” Habang ang bunsong kapatid sa ngayon ay nasa Pilipinas upang ipagpatuloy ang kolehiyo doon.

“Sa susunod na lang na semestre po ako papasok at ipagpapatuloy ang pag-aaral sa kolehiyo.”

“Matatangkad ang mga kapatid ko sa bagong pamilya ng kanyang Ama.”

Mga naisip ko….

Palagay ko matibay na si Lily sa buhay dahil sa pinagdaanan at mga pagsubok ng kanyang pamilya.

Palagay ko tunay na nagabayan at naalagaan siya at kanyang mga kapatid ng kanilang Lolo at Lola. Dahil sa magandang pag-uugali at panuntuyan sa buhay sa kabila na wala sa piling nila ang mga gagabay na magulang.

Palagay ko at dalangin ko ay mararating ni Lily ang kanyang pangarap dahil sa kabila ng pagtatrabaho niya at hindi niya kinalilimutan ang makatapos sa pag-aaral.

Palagay ko ay makakasama niya pagdating ng panahon ang kanyang Ina dito sa Amerika. Dahil nabanggit niya na hihintayin niyang maging US Citizen siya at sa panahon na ito ay ipe-petition niya ang kanyang Ina. Malapit na rin iyon…mga dalawang taon na lamang iyon.

Palagay ko ay magaan na kay Lily ang  relasyon niya sa Ama dahil naikukuwento niya ang kalagayan ng kanyang mga bagong kapatid sa bagong pamilya ng Ama.

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Maraming mga pangyayari at marami dito ay di na maibabalik at mababago ngunit sa kabila nito ay may mga umuusbong muling mga panibagong buhay, magagandang pangarap, pag-asa, at hindi magmamaliw na pagmamahal ng Anak sa Magulang…ng Magulang sa Anak.

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When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint on the clouds of doubt,
And you can never tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar.
So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit
It’s when things go wrong that you mustn’t quit.
-Author Unknown

The Five Regrets of the Dying

The 5 regrets of the dying by Bronnie Ware

Simula noong nabasa ko ang artikulo na ito na mula sa libro na sinulat ni Bronnie Ware ay nagmuni-muni talaga ako dahil napakahalaga nito para sa akin. Dahil ayoko rin na magkaroon ng pagsisi sa huling yugto ng aking buhay kung hindi bibigyan ng halaga ang limang bagay na ito sa ngayon. Now na ika nga.

Nais ko lamang na ipaalam ang mga bagay na ito sa inyo upang makapagmuni-muni rin kayo sa mga tunay na dapat pahalagahan sa ating buhay. Salamat.

Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last 3 to 12 weeks of their lives.
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
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For more information, please visit Bronnie’s official website at http://www.bronnieware.com or her blog at http://www.inspirationandchai.com.

Apat na Tanong

Bata pa ako ay madalas ko ng makita ang mga karatula na ganito ang nasusulat. Nasusulat ito sa English. Ilang salita lamang ang mga ito pero napakaganda ng mensahe na magagamit na gabay sa pang araw-araw na buhay. Naging gabay ko ang apat na tanong na ito sa aking mga mahahalagang desisyon sa aking buhay at patuloy pa rin na ginagamit.

“Of the things we think, say or do:

“Sa lahat ng iisipin, sasabihin o gagawin:

1. Is it the TRUTH?

1. Ito ba ay ang KATOTOHANAN?

2. Is it FAIR to all concerned?

2. Ito ba ay magiging PAREHAS o KATANGGAP-TANGGAP para sa lahat?

3. Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS?

3. Makabubuo ba ito ng KABUTIHAN at MABUTING PAGKAKAIBIGAN?

4. Will it he BENEFICIAL to all concerned?”

4. May KAPAKINABANGAN ba ito sa mga kinauukulan?”

Ang gumawa ng mga karatula na ito ay mula sa mga grupo ng mga Rotarians. Ang mga miyembro ng grupo na ito na nag-isip nito ay nagmula sa iba’t-ibang panig ng mundo. At hindi naman ako naging miyembro nito ngunit tunay na saludo ako sa gabay at karatula na ito.

Subok ang mga gabay na ito na siguradong magiging maayos ang lahat. Puwede rin itong malinaw na gabay sa ating pagsusulat ng blog.

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